This is my whole life after age 9. It is not funny or fun or cute. It doesn’t make you feel special or wanted or desired. It scares and confuses you and men need to stop.
I was maybe 10 when it started & I still remember feeling so ashamed & scared. It’s a disgusting thing to do in general, & a terrible thing to do to children. Sure, it’s technically not a crime, but it should be.
Yeah, I was 10 when the creeps started…
When I was growing up, anyone asking “how old are you” set off a red flag.
and it happened way too much
Oh yeah, that’s a big giant red flag. It’s like they’re trying to gauge how “jailbaity” you are. I still get asked this by men who are a decade or two older than me. I’m in my mid-20s, but I do look pretty young for my age. It’s still fucking creepy.
And I’ve explained this a million times, but I generally don’t tell men who harass me that I’m a lesbian because that usually gets me more harassment and hostility. And when I was little, it was shit like this and other things that happened to me at a young age that caused me to view all sexuality as “disgusting,” therefore really hindered my exploration of my own sexuality. It’s not like they care what your desires are anyway — all that matters is that they try to break down your boundaries and have power over you. And with young pre-teen girls, it’s easier because creeps perceive them as having no boundaries.